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第181章 对外人态度很好,对家人脾气很差,这类人到底是什么心理(1 / 2)

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在生活中,常常能见到这样一类人:

他们在家庭里,在亲密关系中,表现出一副“高高在上,颐指气使”的态度;

对爱人,总是指责,十分傲慢;

对子女,一会贬低,一会冷嘲热讽。

恨不得把所有的坏脾气,全都发泄在家人身上;

只要家人对他有一点儿反抗和不满,他就变本加厉,歇斯底里。

但这类人在外面,又换成了另一副嘴脸:

他谨小慎微,他小心翼翼,他无论对谁都是“和颜悦色,笑眯眯”的态度。

不知道的人,还以为他真的谦虚又善良;

只有熟悉他的人,才知道他在外面和对家人的态度,截然相反。

这类“窝里横”的人,到底是什么心理?

他们的想法,是怎样的?

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心理学分析:“窝里横”人的内心想法

1、家人对他们来说是“安全的”,外人不是

心理学上有个概念,叫“踢猫效应”。

背后有这样一个经典故事:

男人在公司里,被老板批评一顿,让他脸面尽失;

他很生气,回到家里对妻子态度很差,故意找茬,跟妻子大吵一架;

妻子很懵,真是人在厨房,锅从外面来;

此时,孩子放学回家晚了,妻子本就在气头上,就打了儿子一顿。

男孩委屈地不行,正哭泣时,看到猫咪从身边经过,于是一脚把猫咪踢到墙角。

在这个故事里,没有一个人是幸运的。

丈夫是“负面情绪的源头”,而猫咪负责收尾。

这个故事说明两个真相:

第一:人的情绪,是会传染的,无论是积极情绪还是负面情绪。

第二:人的本性,都有欺软怕硬的意识。

丈夫为什么不敢跟老板发脾气?为什么被老板骂的时候,不敢反驳?

因为他认为,老板的态度是不确定因素,一旦他反抗,就会丢掉工作。

为什么他对家人态度很糟糕,脾气很差?

因为家人是安全的,即使他脾气差,家人也不会轻易离开他。

2、矛盾的人设:取悦他人与真实的自我

“窝里横”的人,在外面和在家里是不一样的。

他们内心是冲突的,矛盾的;

在外面,他们想要打造一个“好人”的人设;

而方法则是取悦他人,在取悦他人,讨好他人的过程中,他能够获得些许成就感以及被认同、被需要的心理满足。

比如说:

别人有任何事情麻烦他,他都会去帮忙;即使这件事,对他而言也比较吃力。

这种经营人设的行为,就是他自身展现给外界的名片。

他的潜意识里认为:“只要我对别人够好,别人就会觉得我是个好人,也会帮助我。”

而对家人脾气差,说明什么?

家人跟他朝夕相处,陪伴时间最久;

即使他再打造人设,在家人看来,也是不真实的。

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